Marriage Advice

Marriage Advice

Marriage advice is everywhere. This blog is about a creative way to pass on marriage advice. The normal trend is to date, have sex, move in, and then get married. Things sure have changed over the last few decades. Did you have a married couple in your life that you admired as a young girl or man? What was so different about their marriage?

We recommend interviewing other mentors, influencers, and those you love around you to learn about what works and does not work in a marriage. People are getting married at a later age than decades ago too. There are a lot of fears about making a commitment, due to growing up or seeing broken marriages around them. Others who can help lay out a blueprint for what a great marriage looks like, and how to keep the spark alive, is very valuable.

Talk about what makes a great marriage work. 

Encourage many late night conversations with your children, as they are contemplating who they should date, marry, or hang out with as a friend. What does great character look like? How do you teach your children how to make and keep friends? Set up a policy in your home, that is always open to talk about relationships.

You as parents, have a great influence on your child’s upbringing. As they get older, you want them to make more decisions on their own, so you have to slowly start letting go which is not easy all the time. In a world now with so many single parent homes, things are even harder to teach how to establish a healthy relationship that knows how to handle conflict when it arises.

Working as a private practice counselor, I heard similar fears or concerns from many young adults. Many comments included things like, ‘what if he does not like me anymore?,’ ‘what if she leaves me?,’ or ‘what if he changes?’ There is so much negativity in the world too, that keeps people from getting married.

Leave a message to the future letter, to the couple, in a wedding time capsule.

So, what can you do as parents to encourage and influence your children in a positive way, when it comes to the issue of marriage? Communicate verbally and nonverbally in front of your children. Show them how to problem solve in marriage. Be open to discuss what a great dating relationship, let alone marriage, looks like.

Create a wedding time capsule for your grown child right before they get married. Have family and friends fill out the “message to the future” letters making fun predictions about how many kids they will have, where they will live, etc. Leave messages of hope, relationship tips, wisdom, and share other impacting stories. Then, the couple can fill the wedding time capsule with sentimental items representing their first year of marriage.

Some things do not fit in a scrapbook, so where do you preserve them so moth, mice, and other rodents do not destroy? Preserve their wedding memories, mementos, and memorabilia in a wedding time capsule. It is a heartfelt, enduring, and unique gift to treasure forever.

It is a special gift that will be enjoyed by everyone when it is opened, on a date of the couple’s choosing in the future. When things get tough in your relationship, the time capsule could be opened to remind you why you were married in the first place. It is a gift, that the parents and grandparents can pass on their wisdom and tips about what to do when things get hard in the marriage.

What marriage advice have you received that helped you in  your own relationship? Comment below.

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– Marcie