Tips for First Date Conversation

Tips for First Date conversation

First Date Conversation Tips

On with the blog series about “meeting the love of your life.” What was I doing?  What was I thinking?  I was getting ready to drive through a snow storm to meet some random stranger named Marcie for the first time, and it was not even a date.  This was two friends meeting for the first time.  It has been snowing slowly all day.  There was almost 2 inches of snow on the ground, but the roads were clear.  I drove the hour to pick her up.

As I pulled up in front of her apartment complex I had butterflies in my stomach.  We had exchanged pictures during our two months of emailing, so I knew what she looked like.  While I found her cute, I was not really attracted to her.  Or, at least, I wasn’t attracted to her picture.  As I parked, I saw her look out the sliding glass door of her apartment.  I smiled at her and got out of my van.  The cold air hit me in the face like an uppercut!  I hate cold!  I zipped up my coat, lifted my hat over my head and pulled the drawstrings so that the only thing showing were my eyes.  Did I mention that I hate cold?  I walked about 50 yards to the front door and walked in.  I turned left down the long hallway and I heard her deadbolt unlock and the door open.

She stepped into the hall as I opened the hood of my coat.  I looked at her standing in the hall and our eyes met.  Time seemed to stand still.  It was like the scene in The Matrix where the agent shoot his gun at Neo and Neo dodges the bullets in slow motion by doing a backbend.  I felt like her eyes were shooting lasers into my soul and I needed to dodge them, yet, I wasn’t scared.  I was suddenly overwhelmed by a peace I had never felt before.  I had the conscience thought, “Ooo, she’s cute.”

As I walked down the hall toward her, I heard what I believed was an audible voice say, “You are going to marry that girl.”  I stopped for a moment, turned around, looked at my foster kid, and said, “Excuse me?”  He stared at me with a blank look on his face and said, “I didn’t say anything!”  I knew at that moment what had happened.  I knew that God had said those words to my heart.  I know it sounds crazy, and I know that others will deny that it happened, but it is true.

I hugged her as I got to her doorway and we exchanged short, pleasant conversation.  She grabbed her coat and we left.  It was going to be an hour drive to the game.  We talked, we laughed and we made jokes.  It’s hard to be yourself in these moments, but I tried my best. It is hard and awkward to determine what to talk about on your first date, even though this was just a friendly meeting for us, a get to know you more time. Little did I know this girl really would be my wife in the future.

First Date

Tips for First Date Conversation

  • Remove all expectations and worries. Do not concentrate on being perfect, so you truly get to know who your date is and where the relationship is going.
  • Take a genuine interest in their job, life, or hobby, by asking questions like “how did that start?”
  • Show each other that you can open up and share your dreams about life. Do not be a complete open book on the first date, or you will seem overbearing and not have much to talk about the next date. Let your date ask questions, if he or she wants to know more about the story right then.
  • Talk some about your friends and what you like to do together. This helps your date get to know your personality more, by who you like to socialize with.
  • Tell a funny story, to help break the ice and calm the mood more.
  • Share a personal anecdote. Sometimes sharing an experience or a great memory, helps someone get to know who you are more, and how you would react to situations. Share your great memories of childhood. A first date is like popping open your own Baby Time Capsule of memories growing up. Get a decorative Baby Time Capsule from https://www.timecapsule.com/product/babystimecapsule/
  • Don’t forget to smile during the date. It will help you both feel more relaxed.
  • Try to find something you both have in common in the first 15 minutes, preferably something positive. It makes it easier to be yourself, when you have someting in common to talk about.
  • Make sure you read body language and watch reactions to your conversations. This tells you whether or not to keep talking about a topic. Check out eharmony for 15 great first date questions to get you started, at http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating/15-great-first-date-questions/#.U_9EDPldVbE

Whatever you do, if you feel this date is going great, do not forget to save your memorable first date quotes, stories, restaurant or movie receipts aside. You never know if this person will be “the one” you marry. What a cool idea it would be to put all these mementos and souvenirs in a decorative Wedding Time Capsule, to open at your wedding reception or your first big anniversary after you get married. It would be like reliving your first few dates all  over again. Get this artistic Wedding Time Capsule from https://www.timecapsule.com/product/weddingtimecapsule/.

What did you talk about on your first date with your spouse or boyfriend? Comment below.

Making Milestone Moments Count,

– Marcie

www.timecapsule.com

Note: Photo taken from http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/first-date-conversation-starters