Love Through Loss

Love Through Loss

Have you ever experienced love through loss? Being married can be hard, but when you have a loss, grief, or tragedy, it can be difficult to love. So, how can you draw closer together and love through loss?

When you get married, life is not perfect. In fact, it is a new journey you are taking filled with ups and downs. Everyday there are storms, floods, winds, etc. Just like the weather, how do you stay strong in your marriage to work through these difficult times? Who do you turn to for help, or what do you listen to, follow, or read to encourage and help you through hardships like health, business, school, children, etc.

Many times, married couples, let alone parents need a break. We all need to be reminded at times of why we wanted to get married in the first place. What keeps you going, when you are ready to give up? Photo albums can help remind you of the great times, talking to others who support and love us can help keep our mind, body, and spirit focused on what is important during the hard times.

I have her feet and hand prints in picture frames on my bedroom wall, she said. She was standing at the cemetery looking at her baby’s gravestone reminiscing about the good times.

I, personally, do not know how anyone learns love through loss of a loved one, let alone a baby, who passes away. It is a loss that takes so much strength and help to work through.

She said, will you let your loss define you? Will you let it make you better or bitter. These were powerful words from a friend, who speaks great wisdom about leaning to love through loss. She said the support, advice, and tangible mementos of her baby girl’s life is what has kept her going.

It is interesting, I love to listen to and watch thunderstorms, but when life’s storms come through I do not want to be a part of any detours, valleys, or mountain sized problems. My friend’s words of wisdom has changed my outlook on problems though.

How you process loss will determine how you interact in your daily life. It will influence your character. After you and I have lived through some losses in life, it is important to model and share your story with others you love. Before your children grow up, get married, have children, etc, write them a “message to the future” letter with your words of wisdom about how to love through loss. Help you own child learn how to work through problems, celebrate wins, and enjoy life everyday with advice, encouraging words, and lessons of hope. Fill a decorative baby time capsule with mementos, memorabilia, and these letters. Make fun predictions about what life will be like when your baby is older. Then, on a date of your choosing in the future, let your child open their own baby time capsule and reminisce about what life was like when they were born.

Right before your child goes off to college or the ‘real world,’ you can tell your stories of how to love through loss, how to work through the tough times, how to maintain a great relationship with others, and other tips for life. It is an unforgettable gift to your child, as you pass on these life lessons and leave a legacy for them to read about and hold as they pull out heirloom items from the time capsule that maybe their great grandfather gave them.

What is a way that you love through loss? Comment below.

Making Milestone Moments Count,

– Marcie